Christa Lei

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Polyamory for Introverts

Quiet Hearts, Open Connections

Saturday, November 7th

3:30 pm

Room: Brickyard

So you want to be polyamorous… but you’d rather stare into a candle for an hour than go to a sex-positive speed dating event. I see you.

This 90-minute interactive workshop is designed for introverts, highly sensitive people, and chronically ill or neurodivergent folks who want to build meaningful polyamorous connections without overextending themselves or performing extroverted ENM culture. Through prompts, small group sharing, and a little loving sarcasm, we’ll explore how overstimulation, fatigue, and social burnout impact our relationships—and how to create spacious, tender, low-drama love in response.

We’ll also get practical: how to meet people (without doom-scrolling dating apps forever), how to have slow-paced relationship escalators, and how kink dynamics might actually help introverts find structured and consensual ways to connect.

This workshop centers disabled QTBIPOC folks, but all are welcome—especially if your idea of a good time is NOT another Google calendar invite.

Key Takeaways

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Strategies for dating and building connection as an introvert—including apps, events, and kink-friendly spaces that don’t feel like a sensory hellscape.

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Tools for creating sustainable polyamorous relationships that honor alone time, energy limits, and slower processing styles.

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A reminder that you don’t have to be loud, social, or "performative polyamorous" to have deeply connected, wildly loving relationships.

Christa Lei (they/them) is a queer, neurodivergent, chronically ill Filipinx facilitator, consultant, and death doula who works at the intersections of relational healing, access, and collective care. With a background in clinical research, trauma-informed education, and disability justice frameworks, Christa centers QTBIPOC introverts, sex workers, and community caretakers in all their work. They’ve presented workshops across the country on healthy relating, decolonial grief, pod mapping, and end-of-life care, and are known for making people laugh and cry in the same breath (consensually). They believe in soft connections, slow love, and the radical power of canceling plans.