Access isn’t just about accommodations—it’s about being known, cared for, and met in your needs. As a disabled, neurodivergent person navigating non-monogamy, I’ve experienced both the pain of being overlooked and the deep joy of access intimacy—those moments when someone “just gets it.” This session explores how love, connection, and care show up for disabled, chronically ill, and neurodivergent people in non-monogamous relationships. Whether you’re managing access needs yourself or want to be a better partner or ally, you’ll leave with stories, scripts, and strategies to build relationships where access isn’t an afterthought—it’s a form of love.
Access Intimacy
Exploring Love, Care, and Access in Non-Monogamy
Saturday, November 7th
5:00 pm
Room: Brickyard
Key Takeaways
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Understand how disability, neurodivergence, and chronic illness shape intimacy and connection
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Reframe access needs as an invitation to deeper care, not a burden
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Gain tools to advocate for yourself and support others in building access-centered relationships
Erin Kitson (she/her) is a Certified Professional Relationship Coach and relational communication expert with nearly a decade of lived experience in ethical non-monogamy. As a queer, disabled, and neurodivergent leader, Erin brings a trauma-informed, accessibility-forward lens to everything from consent to community-building.
She is the creator of the Intentional Orbit Relationship Model, a customizable framework that helps people define, communicate, and design relationships outside of hierarchy and default scripts. Erin is passionate about making it feel safe—and even sexy—to say “no,” and she brings warmth, intentionality, and real-world tools to her facilitation.
A past presenter at Midwest LoveFest and Atlanta Polyamory Weekend, Erin also organizes large-scale swinger and polyam events in Chicago, where she’s known for her inclusive leadership and playful, consent-centered approach. Her work empowers people to build authentic connections rooted in mutual care, autonomy, and access intimacy.