This presentation moves beyond the idea that "consent equals ethical" to explore what happens after rupture, harm, or misattunement in polyamorous systems.
While consent is often treated as the foundation of ethical non-monogamy, this talk examines its limits when relational history, power differentials, attachment injuries, and systemic inequities aren't accounted for — including how harm can occur even in consensual contexts, and how "ethical non-monogamy" can bypass accountability by reframing discomfort as individual rather than relational or systemic.
Grounded in an intersectional, trauma-informed lens, the presentation explores how accountability is shaped by identity, privilege, relational hierarchy, and community narratives about "doing polyamory correctly" — and addresses how repair remains underdeveloped in non-monogamous spaces, which often emphasize autonomy but lack shared language for rupture, repair, and reintegration.