At Love Fest Events, we support and maintain consent-focused, sex-positive, and power-aware exploration of relationships, sex, & intimacy. This creates a shared framework of consent, inclusivity and accountability to be held by everyone at our events. Everything listed here is meant to be embraced and maintained by you.

• Listen to people with an open mind and try not to interrupt or speak over, especially if a person from a marginalized community is speaking about their experiences.
• Respect individual’s bathroom choices regardless of gender identity and presentation.
• Respect pronouns. If I am unsure, I will ask their pronouns or use “they/them” instead of defaulting to “he/she” or “him/her”.
• Commonly Overlooked Areas of Inclusivity:
  • Inclusive community requires personal responsibility and ongoing learning. We ask people to educate themselves rather than placing that burden on those directly impacted.
    • Ableism & Invisible Disabilities
      Challenge assumptions about ability and accessibility.
      https://invisibledisabilities.org/what-is-an-invisible-disability/
    • Fat Phobia & Body Liberation
      Unlearn body based bias and avoid size based judgment.
      https://asdah.org/haes/
    • Microaggressions & Privilege
      Learn how power, bias, and impact show up in everyday interactions.
      https://www.apa.org/monitor/2017/01/microaggressions?

Love Fest Events seeks accountability and repair first as possible. Using the above consent framework makes a safer and more enjoyable conference for all. You should be under the assumption that you are accountable for all of your actions, even unintended ones. As we all make mistakes and do harm, whether intentional or not, accountability is how we learn to be better community members and repair harm with one another.

Feedback is the greatest asset for someone being alerted to any harm they may have caused. If you or surrounding community members have the willingness & capacity, let the person know directly what was harmful.

An easy recipe for repair is:

“I’m sorry for [state harm as told to you]. Thank you for letting me know. Is there anything you need from me around this?”

Avoid any justification or explanation of why you might not have known or what you thought, you may end up having an insincere apology or create further harm.

Educate yourself further on anything unclear to you why it was harmful with web resources, paid consultations or for free with knowledgeable privileged folks. Please do NOT ask marginalized people for free labor for your education.

If you or another person need conference assistance, alert any conference staff/volunteer person to the situation. We will help as much as we are able and have capacity and/or training on.

Conference staff will investigate reported incidents and take appropriate action on a case-by-case basis. All actions taken by Conference Staff will be reported to all individuals involved.

Ways you may be held accountable in the community are:

• Feedback or coaching with the intent of helping me be a better community participant.
• Participating in mediation or restorative justice.
• Being asked to leave the event, up to and including, being temporarily or permanently banned from future or related events.
• Allowing SWLF to share any information about the incident and involved parties with other organizers or community members, however they decide is best, in order to help prevent future issues.